It’s A Man’s World
Growing up, I remember dreaming of getting married and settling down. Yes, I was one of those girls who never tired of playing house and even developed a natural habit of looking out for those who are younger than I. I use to daydream about marrying a wonderful man, having children, a house, and the white picket fence. It is true, I wanted it all. A part of me still does. Today I sit at the young age of 32 and realize that is a dying dream. In fact, a number of women like me, who hold on to this image are looked down at.
Today I sit at the young age of 32 and realize that is a dying dream. In fact, a number of women like me, who hold on to this image are looked down at. Women no longer live in a world where it is considered an honorable notion of acting as a wife and a mother.
We, as women, decide we want something more. We set out to achieve a cultural and philosophical revolution that would reshape and redefine what it means to be a woman. Things a woman use to take pride in such as virtue, chastity, discretion, domesticity, submission, and modesty is becoming things of the past. Instead, we value things such as independence, sensuality, dominance, and pride.
When you hear the term housewife, what do you think of? What words immediately come to mind? Society today tends to look at housewives as:
- Submissive, Slaves – Stepford or Trophy Wives
- Lazy – Welfare Queens
- Hobo, Bag Lady -Unkept and Unclean
It is not a pretty picture, is it? Yet, these are just the beginning of the tools in which Satan uses in order to convince women that to be bound in matrimony or have children is nothing short of a prison-issued life sentence. We are spoonfed that to be a wife means a woman is bound to fail, suffer endless boredom, have no purpose, and be enslaved to the confines of her own home!
When you look at being a wife from this standpoint, I have to admit, it is not very appealing.
What Does The Bible Say About Wives?
Proverbs 31:10-31English Standard Version (ESV)
The Woman Who Fears the Lord
10 An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
14 She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
15 She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She dresses herself with strength
and makes her arms strong.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
20 She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.
Why Did God Make Women?
Genesis 2:18New International Version (NIV)
18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Nancy Leigh Demoss captures women’s purpose in a beautiful way. She writes:
“God created woman to be a helper to man – to complete him, to be suited to his needs… The woman was uniquely designed and equipped – physiologically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually – by her Creator to be a bearer and nurturer of life. ”
“There is no greater measure of her worth or success as a woman than the extent to which she serves as the heart of her home.”
Working Is Not A Sin
By no means does this imply that a woman cannot work to help support her home. There is nothing wrong with a wife helping her husband support the home. Her work is good and becomes a potential breeding ground for sin when her job competes or diminishes her ability to fulfill her primary calling in her duties in the home.
The Simple Truth
There is no higher or holier calling than to be a wife and mother.
1 Timothy 5:9-10 New International Version (NIV)
9 No widow may be put on the list of widows unless she is over sixty, has been faithful to her husband, 10 and is well known for her good deeds,such as bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the Lord’s people, helping those in trouble and devoting herself to all kinds of good deeds.
God has uniquely designed woman to be a bearer and nurturer of life.
Genesis 2:24 New International Version (NIV)
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Genesis 3:20 New International Version (NIV)
20 Adam named his wife Eve, because she would become the mother of all the living.
There is no greater measure of a woman’s worth than the extent to which she serves as the heart of her home.
Titus 2:4-5 New International Version (NIV)
4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.