It’s Just A Phase
As human beings, there is one truth that we all need to accept.
We’re All Rebels!
When I was a teenager, I admit, I wasn’t your party goer. I didn’t stay out late, but that doesn’t mean I never rebelled. I argued with my parents. I talked back. Today, I can look back and be grateful that they didn’t let it slide. Otherwise, it is likely I wouldn’t have any respect for anyone.
I argued with my parents. I talked back. Today, I can look back and be grateful that they didn’t let it slide. Otherwise, it is likely I wouldn’t have any respect for anyone.
Now as I am a mother of two, I discover myself facing similar challenges. For a lie that Satan looks to ingrain into my mind, and those of other parents is:
There is no hope for our children to live holy and surrendered lives during their childhood and adolescent years.
The great Deceiver wants moms, dads, grandmas, grandpas, foster parents, step parents, and guardians to anticipate and expect the worst of their little ones. He wants them to dread the future, and worry about the kind of people they will be, rather than focus on fixating on what beautiful children they already are!
We’re All Rebels
Our parents are sinners. Their parents before them, are sinners. Even our grandparent’s parents are sinners. We too are born sinners. Our children will be born sinners just as their children will be born sinners. This cycle of sin is ongoing and has been since the fall of Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden.
Psalm 51:5 King James Version (KJV)
5 Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.
Isaiah 59:2-8King James Version (KJV)
2 But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face from you, that he will not hear.
3 For your hands are defiled with blood, and your fingers with iniquity; your lips have spoken lies, your tongue hath muttered perverseness.
4 None calleth for justice, nor any pleadeth for truth: they trust in vanity, and speak lies; they conceive mischief, and bring forth iniquity.
5 They hatch cockatrice’ eggs, and weave the spider’s web: he that eateth of their eggs dieth, and that which is crushed breaketh out into a viper.
6 Their webs shall not become garments, neither shall they cover themselves with their works: their works are works of iniquity, and the act of violence is in their hands.
7 Their feet run to evil, and they make haste to shed innocent blood: their thoughts are thoughts of iniquity; wasting and destruction are in their paths.
8 The way of peace they know not; and there is no judgment in their goings: they have made them crooked paths: whosoever goeth therein shall not know peace.
Should We Give Up Then?
No, heavens no. For even since the very beginning, from the very first fall, God had a plan. That plan is Redemption. This fool proof plan will be the salvation of all sinners; mothers, fathers, grandmothers, grandfathers, sisters, brothers, sons, and daughters. Everyone.
Acts 2:38-39 New International Version (NIV)
38 Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. 39 The promise is for you and your children and for all who are far off—for all whom the Lord our God will call.”
When our angels tell us no, cross their arms, pout, storm out, refuse to listen, and defy us we need not turn a blind eye. Likewise, we are not to let it intimidate us, nor are we to justify it.
We do not say: “I guess all kids have to go through this.”
Instead, we need to:
- Understand the changes they are experiencing
- Teach them how to deal with their emotions
- Set an example in our day to day language and behavior
- Deal with problems head on
- Maintain and encourage open lines of communication
- Give consequences for their actions
- Show forgiveness, compassion, and mercy when they repent
- Love them unconditionally
And let us not forget to pray earnestly for them each and every day.